Things I need to work through...
The following are a list of things that I need to work through as I begin my "rebith". I'm putting them here so that everyone can see them and can help me on my path.
1) How to allow myself to trust another person again.
2) How to allow myself to believe another person again.
3) How to allow myself to love again.
4) How to get past being lied to.
5) How to get past allowing myself to be manipulated.
6) How to let go of these things and many others and move on.
7) How to forget the past and those that have hurt me.
That's all for now.
1) How to allow myself to trust another person again.
2) How to allow myself to believe another person again.
3) How to allow myself to love again.
4) How to get past being lied to.
5) How to get past allowing myself to be manipulated.
6) How to let go of these things and many others and move on.
7) How to forget the past and those that have hurt me.
That's all for now.
posted by LaTech at 10:13 PM
2 Comments:
ya know I hope I have never hurt you...I sometimes think I did in some way..write me on my email...
love from my right pinky toe
Well, there's no simple solution to any of the issues listed other than to give it time. Time gives us the gift of perspective (without so much of the pain), and eventually you see that unless you intend to live the rest of your life as a robot, you will get back in the game again (technically you already believe/trust many of us who read/write to you, so it is mostly a level of trust issue). Also, you will be hurt again (maybe/hopefully not as severely) as long as you play the game, but it's part of life. You eventually learn to deal with it the best you can. I know I went through some tough times and some counseling with my wife during a brief period and it really helped to get a counselor involved for the sake of the relationship to act as a referee. As to personal counseling, I think that as long as you are true and honest with yourself, its generally not necessary, but my dad did seem to get a lot out of group counseling when he was going through a tough period (he met a lot of people who had it far worse). If there's a problem that you can't fix on your own, it is okay to get help (and I think that's part of what this blog is). As to being manipulated and lied to, that too will happen again. Its (unfortunately) part of human nature, and there are those out there that (for whatever reason) will resort to lies and manipulation. BTW, lies and manipulation are not always a bad thing, they can be done with the best of intention (When your wife looks in a mirror as says "I'm fat," you'll know what I'm talking about). As we encounter more people throughout the course of our life, we learn to be a little more critical and observant of signs that we've observed in the past. We are all being manipulated all of the time (to buy something we don't really need, etc...), the key is learning to recognise it and responding appropriately. As in the previour post, the best prescription is time and perspective. Just hold on to those you love and you'll get through this, and always remember that you're not alone, you've got friends. Take care...
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